tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post1904947604965335272..comments2023-10-08T06:58:11.558-04:00Comments on bound by symmetry.: why I blogunaffectedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01847927139783349391noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-72826021287816946522012-03-09T16:17:00.891-05:002012-03-09T16:17:00.891-05:00I agree! So well put, too.I agree! So well put, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-73793230522148285532012-03-08T15:03:50.419-05:002012-03-08T15:03:50.419-05:00I think everyone who is divided on the issue shoul...I think everyone who is divided on the issue should read this post. I think it spells out everything neatly and decisively without being hurtful or pointing fingers. I think I blog for the same exact reasons you do, and probably even in the same order. <br /><br />The only thing I would disagree with is how supportive you feel you are. You ARE supportive. Your comments have meant a great deal to me and I appreciate them. Just so you know :)Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-90977221284443697872012-03-08T10:42:02.876-05:002012-03-08T10:42:02.876-05:00I totally agree with all of this. Thank you! I rea...I totally agree with all of this. Thank you! I really don't like the stressful feeling I get when I log on now, but I love everyone here and I enjoy reading too much to stop.Emily @ablanket2keephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10398858102692984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-49861701177629065462012-03-08T02:53:09.716-05:002012-03-08T02:53:09.716-05:00Super analysis. Thank you for sharing your thought...Super analysis. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.Elizabeth :: Bébé Suissehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12611974492044450702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-66291322016814585492012-03-08T01:41:51.446-05:002012-03-08T01:41:51.446-05:00Agreed with it all. Thanks for sharing your view o...Agreed with it all. Thanks for sharing your view on your reasons for blogging (mine are the same) and your opinions on PAIL. Well said.<br />MissCADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-91377392217876709492012-03-07T22:07:36.595-05:002012-03-07T22:07:36.595-05:00Delurking because I finally feel comfortable enoug...Delurking because I finally feel comfortable enough to say 'thank you'. I don't have a blog but I read a few and last week you were kind enough on Denise's blog "This Blondie Wants Babies" to comment on the post related to my recent unexpected miscarriage. I'm the girl that heard my baby's heartbeat twice and during a routine u/s learned there was no more. You were so kind to post in the comments and refer me to read your m/c experience which sounds sadly just like my experience. I also thoroughly enjoy (if that is strangely possible) your thoughts and feelings in the posts following. You said things that I felt but didn't know how to express. I feel so validated by many of your thoughts. I now have your blog pinned and I'll be following you often. BTW, we got our DNA results from my D&C - I lost a perfectly healthy chromosomally normal girl. I don't know what to think/feel anymore as it brings some relief that I can produce normal embryos (of 25 embryos I've produced one pregnancy which as you know ended in m/c) however, now I have a whole other set of fear and concerns to worry about wondering if the best I could ever do for myself is produce a host of miscarriages. Anyhow, sorry for the long delurk but thank you. I seriously want to internet hug you. - LauraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-47306708018199576962012-03-07T21:54:03.653-05:002012-03-07T21:54:03.653-05:00Great post! I hope this can be resolved, I'd l...Great post! I hope this can be resolved, I'd like to think all of this was just a big misunderstanding. I am one of the ones who joined, but not because I want to be apart from the IF crew, I still consider myself IF, even though I am "crossed over" now. I will be dealing with the same issues all over again for #2, and feel even if I wasn't, I would still feel infertile inside. I just thought it was another great place to find blogs to read/readers for my blog. I actually didn't know about Mel's blogroll, only ICLW :( I love keeping up with everyone, I know I've lost some followers since getting pregnant/having my son, and can completely understand. I did notice a dip in ICLW readers once this happened, but I kind of chalked it up to coming with the territory. I started blogging because friends and family were too embarrassed to ask us how was your follie u/s today? lol. It's just an added bonus to have everyone else follow or stop by. I just know speaking for myself only, I viewed it as just another outlet. Not THE outlet, because I don't really believe there is just ONE. Ok, I'll stop rambling now sorry! <br /><br />xoxo ;)Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00531270433999405167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-58037132516681177832012-03-07T20:31:41.463-05:002012-03-07T20:31:41.463-05:00it seems the only solution is to erase both PAIL b...it seems the only solution is to erase both PAIL blogrolls and make a new, universal one with all the members from both lists and a new button that can be found on both Mel's and Elfie's sites.<br /><br />I asked my DH what he would do and he said it is like Solomon and the baby. Two women claim the same baby is their's so Solomon says that we should cut it in half and you can each have a piece. The woman who is not the real mother agrees but the child's real mother says no, just give him to the other woman so her can survive.<br /><br />That tells me that this PAIL thing really is Mel's baby, that she would rather have one universal PAIL blogroll run by someone else, so people are joining the FULL group of women in the same situation, rather than being fine with a split-up portion of the community.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-23708048009190344522012-03-07T20:04:23.424-05:002012-03-07T20:04:23.424-05:00Really appreciated everything you had to say on th...Really appreciated everything you had to say on this topic. I find myself very much in agreement with you. Thanks for taking the time put together a very well thought out and sensitive response on this delicate topic. I may have wanted to stand up and cheer a little bit when I read it from my desk at work today. Kudos!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07381253579152215947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-88199002840214255622012-03-07T19:34:25.436-05:002012-03-07T19:34:25.436-05:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I too have be...Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I too have been thinking a lot about Mel's recent posts and this whole situation reflects on my blog. It's a hard topic, particularly because so many people have been hurt. But I'm hoping that if people are willing to continue to be honest with one another WHILE being respectful, that all of this can be worked out.<br /><br />Anyway, I'm in complete agreement with you. I haven't unfollowed blogs after pregnancy announcements (mainly because I've established a relationship with the individual and want to support them), but I can completely understand why someone would. You said it best: it's important to protect yourself while on this journey.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-18265434609126789772012-03-07T17:47:22.231-05:002012-03-07T17:47:22.231-05:00Thanks for sharing! It's amazing how somethin...Thanks for sharing! It's amazing how something seemingly so small can get everyone (myself included) so upset!<br /><br />I adore your blog and will always follow it. I appreciate that you still follow mine, but if there is ever a point where you don't want to/can't read or comment I totally get that! <br /><br />I stopped following a few blogs that I wasn't all that close with when they got pg, so I totally understnad anyone who did the same to me.<br /><br />I also appreciate the quote from above, I think that is a good way of truly capturing what Mel felt, I think we all got a little too wordy and lost our points entirely.<br /><br />I can't wait to continue reading and see what you are up to and your adorable doggie!kkasunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02183334533316759163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-38805757945950161612012-03-07T17:36:40.860-05:002012-03-07T17:36:40.860-05:00Lisa, I think you hit the nail on the head when yo...Lisa, I think you hit the nail on the head when you say you did what was right for you! That's the main thing here. Not doing something b/c you are afraid of losing followers, or of hurting feelings, or any other reason that does not have your own best interests at heart.<br /><br /><3unaffectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01847927139783349391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-3294716821364420012012-03-07T17:16:21.485-05:002012-03-07T17:16:21.485-05:00Great post!!!Great post!!!Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16514089603921948705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-79019107135631712312012-03-07T17:12:20.018-05:002012-03-07T17:12:20.018-05:00Great post! I've lurked on your blog for a ve...Great post! I've lurked on your blog for a very long time, and have always found you to be so level-headed. This post is so mature, so well-thought, and so peaceful. <br /><br />I like how you described getting over your bitterness. I identify so much with you on that. I think we all go through stages of bitterness, but it feels so good when you can put it behind you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-78221930147071597472012-03-07T17:11:04.358-05:002012-03-07T17:11:04.358-05:00Niiiiiiiiiiiiiice!Niiiiiiiiiiiiiice!The Cornfed Feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049764462275577386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-29280801990650047232012-03-07T16:52:31.181-05:002012-03-07T16:52:31.181-05:00I'm joining in Cornfed Feminist's slow cla...I'm joining in Cornfed Feminist's slow clap. :)robinhttp://polycysticinside.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-64822581454855827062012-03-07T16:49:48.981-05:002012-03-07T16:49:48.981-05:00Oh I'm one of the guilty who made another blog...Oh I'm one of the guilty who made another blog to post all of the pregnant stuff on.. and now unfortunatly, my first one is barely updated.<br />I know it's not for everyone to do that, but it felt like the right thing to do for myself. *nodnod*<br /><br />Anywho... I think most infertiles can totally relate to everything you've posted. I know for myself, I never unfollowed any blogs, but I certainly 'lost' a lot of blogs if someone got pregnant. Bitterness certainly does come with the territory.LisaLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17757636046520334259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-56430548463173360992012-03-07T16:42:08.172-05:002012-03-07T16:42:08.172-05:00I just started a slow clap for you in my office. ...I just started a slow clap for you in my office. It didn't take off, but it's all good.The Cornfed Feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049764462275577386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-6977863023901307962012-03-07T16:04:19.191-05:002012-03-07T16:04:19.191-05:00Writing has always been an outlet for me, ever sin...Writing has always been an outlet for me, ever since I was young. I love coming to read your blog and the blogs of many other ladies. It's hard to explain to "real world" friends how meaningful all of this and all of you can be to me when I've never met anyone in person, but it just is.Kellie Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13041713055351584536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-10789371233914888342012-03-07T15:56:57.464-05:002012-03-07T15:56:57.464-05:00This was awesome, thank you! I agree the events of...This was awesome, thank you! I agree the events of the past 2 days have given us a lot of food for thought and I agree with everything you've said here. A person's blog is *their* space, so they should write what they want. I think that idea gets mucked up when you stop writing just for yourself and are writing for comments and increased readership. I'm glad the PAIL discussion has gotten these issues out in the open.Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-17961039601634850762012-03-07T14:56:20.665-05:002012-03-07T14:56:20.665-05:00I don't know anything about PAIL but I can def...I don't know anything about PAIL but I can definitely to relate to your opinions on much of this post as to Infertile's who become pregnant not wanting to blog and unfollowing blogs once the blogess does become pregnant. I actually am just starting to coming around to learning to put me first. There were times I felt I had to read and comment even though that day may not have been a good day. Now I know its ok to not comment and just come back later when I'm in a better head space.Mrs. Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02764630042494209537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-80467999712186003182012-03-07T14:33:32.115-05:002012-03-07T14:33:32.115-05:00Ha! True story, I was reading your entire post (be...Ha! True story, I was reading your entire post (before I got to your last aside) doing fist pumps and nodding my head in agreement and trying to figure out how to get away with plagiarizing it all and claiming it as my own! Not even joking!<br /><br />I agree, I agree, I agree. With each and every single point. You could have been speaking directly from my heart. So for you my dear, I offer up one last fist pump before someone comes into my office and tries to figure out what the hell it is I am doing in here!S.I.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15037271343194689612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-68302582508206495022012-03-07T13:50:36.296-05:002012-03-07T13:50:36.296-05:00Thanks, Em!
That is so weird about blogger kickin...Thanks, Em!<br /><br />That is so weird about blogger kicking you off the followers list! I have never heard of such a thing. I hope it resolves itself soon, that sounds annoying!unaffectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01847927139783349391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-16422901139600081842012-03-07T13:49:42.382-05:002012-03-07T13:49:42.382-05:00Thank you, Allison! :)Thank you, Allison! :)unaffectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01847927139783349391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2614900991111270710.post-67711903657575352162012-03-07T13:49:13.380-05:002012-03-07T13:49:13.380-05:00I love you too, Linds! I just hate for you, or any...I love you too, Linds! I just hate for you, or any PIF to feel apprehensive about posting on their own blog. That's asinine! I want to read what you say, regardless of subject matter!unaffectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01847927139783349391noreply@blogger.com