***hugs*** Cry and blog, that's about what I do. Even though I don't have any friends in real life who I can or choose to talk to about infertility, I have dozens of supportive women who have helped me through my struggles online.
you remember that YOU DO have things in common, find a new hobby (then there will be ppl in there with similar interets) join a club/team in your area to get out and socalize, and remember that there are childless(by choice and not) people out there you CAN relate to! HUGS
I've certainly felt this way so many times. I agree about finding a new hobby. My hubby told me this so many times, but once I found something I could actually stick with and enjoy, it mad all the difference. Hugs! This too shall pass...
I read your blog a lot (I really love your writing), but this hit close to home. I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances, wives of my husband's friends, but that's it. I kept thinking it was just a difficult time in my life (my son was unplanned and in our attempt to save ourselves, we clung to each other without any expectations from anyone else). Here I am, ten years later and it still hurts. I still hope that someday I'll be able to meet someone that I can connect with, but I often feel to pessimistic, too different, too "out there" for anyone. It's terrible. I know part of it is my fault. I'm very guarded and tend to carry my baggage everywhere. Big hugs to you, you seem like a wonderful person. <3
You hang on to the good friends you have and go out searching for more. Ones that know and understand. You might be surprised by what you find. It's different for everyone. Even when you feel isolated, though, you are not alone. Your short post says so much, without spelling it all out. At the very least, it helps me feel less alone (for the moment).
What an awful feeling. I just avoided all contact with women, it was sad, but better than hearing only about kids. I am so sorry this is how you are feeling. Thanking of you!
i totally get this feeling and it is terribly lonely. I often describe feeling like I am on my own island- married, no kids, mid 30's. It is very sucky. sending lots of love to you. You are so not alone in these feelings.
I'm sorry. I know what you mean. This IF really sucks!!! Just yesterday at lunch a group of about 10 of us went to lunch... and of course the convo turned to being pg and how awful it is. The whole time, I'm thinking "You b****, you have no idea what some of us would give to be able to go through that."
I'm with Meggola - I was going to suggest Summer Shandy:) On a more serious note, I live in Chippewa Falls, WI, the home of Leinenkugel's, so things like Summer Shandy start a few weeks earlier and end a few weeks later for us. So if you find yourself in a pinch, I'll mail you some:) On an even more serious note, why can't all of us infertiles live on an island together??? Wouldn't that be great? It seems that we are all on our own islands alone. HUGS!
Thanks for the birthday wishes. Hang in there, I have to believe that things will get better for all of us. In the meantime, I wish there was something magical to say and do that would help. I resort the beer and chocolate a lot.
So sorry. I am completely there with you. I actually had an old friend tell me the other day that the reason we aren't really friends anymore is because "our lives just became so different." Translation: She has two children while I am still waiting on baby #1. Those with children just don't get it.
***hugs*** Cry and blog, that's about what I do. Even though I don't have any friends in real life who I can or choose to talk to about infertility, I have dozens of supportive women who have helped me through my struggles online.
ReplyDeleteyou remember that YOU DO have things in common, find a new hobby (then there will be ppl in there with similar interets) join a club/team in your area to get out and socalize, and remember that there are childless(by choice and not) people out there you CAN relate to! HUGS
ReplyDeleteI've certainly felt this way so many times. I agree about finding a new hobby. My hubby told me this so many times, but once I found something I could actually stick with and enjoy, it mad all the difference. Hugs! This too shall pass...
ReplyDeleteI read your blog a lot (I really love your writing), but this hit close to home. I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances, wives of my husband's friends, but that's it. I kept thinking it was just a difficult time in my life (my son was unplanned and in our attempt to save ourselves, we clung to each other without any expectations from anyone else). Here I am, ten years later and it still hurts. I still hope that someday I'll be able to meet someone that I can connect with, but I often feel to pessimistic, too different, too "out there" for anyone. It's terrible. I know part of it is my fault. I'm very guarded and tend to carry my baggage everywhere. Big hugs to you, you seem like a wonderful person. <3
ReplyDeleteYou hang on to the good friends you have and go out searching for more. Ones that know and understand. You might be surprised by what you find. It's different for everyone. Even when you feel isolated, though, you are not alone. Your short post says so much, without spelling it all out. At the very least, it helps me feel less alone (for the moment).
ReplyDeleteWhat an awful feeling. I just avoided all contact with women, it was sad, but better than hearing only about kids.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry this is how you are feeling.
Thanking of you!
i totally get this feeling and it is terribly lonely. I often describe feeling like I am on my own island- married, no kids, mid 30's. It is very sucky. sending lots of love to you. You are so not alone in these feelings.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry. I know what you mean. This IF really sucks!!! Just yesterday at lunch a group of about 10 of us went to lunch... and of course the convo turned to being pg and how awful it is. The whole time, I'm thinking "You b****, you have no idea what some of us would give to be able to go through that."
ReplyDeleteHugs to you.
<3 Hugs. I love ya, girl.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
ReplyDeleteI feel this way all the time actually lol.
ReplyDeleteNot even just about the infertile thing, but b/c I'm a big non-intelligent nerd :P lol
But seriously though **HUGS**
The big IF totally bites. I recommend things like beer and chocolate to help deal with the BS of it all. And internet hugs. Those are good too.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Meggola - I was going to suggest Summer Shandy:) On a more serious note, I live in Chippewa Falls, WI, the home of Leinenkugel's, so things like Summer Shandy start a few weeks earlier and end a few weeks later for us. So if you find yourself in a pinch, I'll mail you some:) On an even more serious note, why can't all of us infertiles live on an island together??? Wouldn't that be great? It seems that we are all on our own islands alone. HUGS!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the birthday wishes. Hang in there, I have to believe that things will get better for all of us. In the meantime, I wish there was something magical to say and do that would help. I resort the beer and chocolate a lot.
ReplyDeleteSending you a hug...
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. I am completely there with you. I actually had an old friend tell me the other day that the reason we aren't really friends anymore is because "our lives just became so different." Translation: She has two children while I am still waiting on baby #1. Those with children just don't get it.
ReplyDelete