Monday, February 6, 2012

progress; and infertility is not just

I am happy to announce that today is CD2!

AF decided to arrive yesterday, and this was the most excited I've ever been to be bleeding heavily.

I've sent an email to my clinic. Hopefully I will hear from them today regarding my next step.

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I also wanted to clarify my post from late Saturday night. Buster and I were out with our friends and family celebrating his 30th birthday. We had both been drinking, and we were really enjoying ourselves.

The comment that moved me to blog in a bar was from my cousin. Her mom and my mom are twin sisters, and we are extremely close to them.

My cousin is only 22, and I know she did not know any better. She meant no harm in her comment. But, what saddens me is that my aunt is making off-handed remarks about surrogacy. Not only does this infer that something is wrong with me, it's also completely ignorant regarding the investment of choosing surrogacy. Emotional investment, financial, etc.

My infertility is not something I take lightly. Off-handed comments that start "You should just..." are going to anger me. Regardless.

There is no "just" in infertility. And sure, I mean that in more ways than one. There is no "just" in the way my aunt meant it. Nothing comes easy with this, especially decisions. Especially decisions about having someone else carry your child.

And there is no "just" in infertility. Nothing good, upright, deserving. Infertility is, by nature, unjust.

20 comments:

  1. "There is no just in infertility." My new favorite quote.

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  2. Hooray for AF and a new cycle! :) Also, 'there is no just in IF'. Love it!

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  3. You speak the truth!

    And, HOORAH for CD2. Maybe you and I can board the crazy train together? :)

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  4. Agreed! And congrats on hitting CD2!

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  5. I figured that "my mom" was a family member of yours (vs. your mom) -- sucks that so many people in your family seem to think of m/c as a sign of deficiency rather than something that happens. Sigh... Anyhoo, yay on AF being here and here's to new beginnings!

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  6. You are so right! No one has the right to say any of us should just do anything. Sometimes, they should be happy that we just choose to get out of bed and deal with them!

    Joey
    http://thechildlessmom.blogspot.com

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  7. Until someone has walked a mile (or more)....

    I don't blame you for being pissed!

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  8. Amen my sister. Infertility is not just.

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  9. Ditto what everyone else said.

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  10. YAY AF! I'm excited for things to keep moving for you.
    And amen to the "just" comments and suggestions! I'm tired of hearing them, too!

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  11. Yay for AF! Did you hear back from your clinic yet??

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  12. I wanna take the word "just" and shove it where the sun don't shine.

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  13. Max noted last night that he things it's funny women sync up even over the internet! Hoping for good things in the near future!

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  14. I really like this post...might be worth considering for creme de la creme.

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